About Me

I was born in Bristol, England on 2nd August 1958 and have been in my time a cocktail waiter, lorry driver, soldier, programmer and full time student. One thing I know a bit about are computers - I've been using them since the early 1980's.

I'm supposed to be fairly intelligent, but that has never stopped me from doing some really dumb things. I'm also very lucky. Even the stupidest of things I've done have a habit of working out, if not well, at least not too badly. These two traits are just as well, I've an "A" type personality which means I'll try things just for the hell of it. One of my worst problems is that I get very impatient. If I had a SMG or automatic rifle and I was a little more impatient there wouldn't be too many people left in supermarket queues ahead of me or on the roads.

Patty has an interesting badge (American = pin) that reads...

Please taka a number and stick it up your ass

If you've had to spend as much time as I have at NHSS (British National Health and Social Security) or INS (American Immigration & Naturalization Services) now the USCIS (United States Citizenship and Immigration Services) offices you'll know what I mean. These are also another couple of places where those automatic firearms could prove to be very useful. Another trait I've got is that I get very focused on whatever I'm doing at the time. Once started on something I won't stop until it's either completed or proved without doubt that it's beyond my capabilities. It's not necessarily a bad trait, but poor Patty sometimes gets ignored and very frustrated with me because of it.

I'm twice married. I suppose like most people, the first time I got married I thought it would be forever. Unfortunately Trish, although witty and intelligent, very quickly turned out to be an alcoholic, liar and thief - probably because she was (is?) a paranoid schizophrenic. The film about schizophrenic mathematician John Nash, "A Beautiful Mind" (2001, directed by Ron Howard) gives a rose-tinted glimpse into her world. If you've ever seen the film and thought it was a horrendous thing to go through, let me assure you the reality of being or living with an alcoholic paranoid schizophrenic is much, much worse. There is a saying, or rather a curse, often said to be of Chinese origin but is an American invention that says, "May you live in interesting times". That's what my marriage to Trish was like. I ended up being a lot poorer in almost every way and with the feeling I'd been mugged repeatedly. She ended up being having to be looked after by the Social Services. If you or someone near to you has an untreated mental disease GET HELP NOW, you both need it.

Before I met Patty this page contained "Best moment in my life - the day I married Trish. Second best moment - the day she left."

One day I was explaining to Patty why some British people have letters like M.B.E., O.B.E. etc. after their names. For a while she started introducing me to her friends as Ray Thomas S.S.C. Where S.S.C. stands for Silver Swimming Certificate - the only initials after my name I'll ever get. I passed my 1 mile swimming test in 1984, even though I'd swallowed so much water I could have walked the last 1/4 of it.

Patty, my wife, companion and friend - May 2004

Patty, my wife, companion and friend - May 2004

Patty and I first started chatting together on the internet in 1997. We had no idea where our instant messages and emails would take us, but after a lot of humming and ahhing I left my home city of Bristol, England in September 2001 for my adopted home of Terre Haute, Indiana, America and we were married on 10th November 2001.

I hadn't planned on writing anything about myself on the site at all, but some people (mostly Patty and her friends) suggested that I did and include a few pictures of myself, hence these few pages and photographs...

Warning:- Those of a weak or nervous disposition should proceed with caution!

Patty and I, 4th August 2014

Patty and I, 4th August 2014

Me - 2010

Bloody 'ell, where did all those lines and creases come from?
Can they fill your entire head with Botox? How much is it?

Patty & I - 10th November 2001

Patty & I - 10th November 2001

Me 1998


Me 1997


Me 1995


Me 1982

Norway, 1982

Me 1979


Me - 1969


Me 1962


This page created 17th May 1999, last modified 20th September 2014

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